Exams, Bloggers and Poll

I'm not sure how many of you know but I have my exams coming up next month, and that's why there has been a decline in postings lately. I really can't believe I'm going to be sitting for exams again, feels just like yesterday when I did my last post about taking a break from blogging.

C&B and PFL are going to remain this way till about the last week of July, but I am not entirely sure. However it is a for gone surety that I will resume posting regularly in August. As for GPY!!! the same fate is going to be presenting itself however I shall be surfacing to post the Formspring questions given to me in June. The post is all ready in the drafts. If anybody has any questions to ask me, there is still time.

It sucks to be studying right now, especially since almost everyone I know is on vacations and is having a complete ball. A few things however still make me pick my chin off the ground, such as gym and Josh. I used to go regularly to my earlier gym, but I had no trainer. This time around I got one and he's fantastic. I dropped 5 kgs in a month and 2 inches off my waist. I'm putting the hunk back in Phunk!

Oh and in case you are thinking that somehow I am doing this for Josh, you can't be more wrong. I'm doing this for myself. I'm doing this to be healthy, and while I can not see the results myself I have been getting comments from people around me that I have lost weight. Yeah, I'm weird in the sense that I do not think I have lost weight even when the scale says that I have. Ever Mr. Ridiculous!

With summer over us in full bloom, I'm extremely sorry that I will not be able to entertain you. However I'm leaving you in the capable hands of some Pakistani gay bloggers that I have come across. Some are old, some are new. Some are still active, some have come to a halt for now. But perhaps increased traffic would get them to start posting again.

I have posted about this blog before, but I think he definitely deserves a mention. I'm a huge fan of his writing, and I really do hope that he starts posting again soon. He took a break for his exams, and from what he told me the break paid off. His exams went well. I'm hoping that a few of you could light his fire and get him to post some new material. My very good friend Aaron Khan's blog, Life.....A Constant Battle.

This blog is relatively new, and unfortunately he's been slow on postings recently. I really like the whole theme of his blog and I'm pretty sure alot of gay guys out there would be able to identify with his life events. He's done four posts till now, and they're all pretty good. I would advice you to take caution as his posts tend to leave one a little light headed from the blood rushes to other parts of the body. And I really do not understand his fascination with the letter 'T'. The What-Not-To-Do Blog for the Average Queer Slut by Average Queer Slut.

Taste Some Gay Salt by Branden was one of my every day clicks last summer. The author of the blog has disappeared off the grid, however he still logs on to the blog time to time. Perhaps a quick E-mail can inspire him to start writing once again. Some of his posts have truly made me envious of his writing style, take this for example.

Not that I am partial towards Karachi, but whenever I come across a gay blogger from Karachi I can't help but scream in ecstasy. And I am quite sure I shattered a few glasses when I came across Feel-o-Rama by Ayaan Khan. I'm not a fan of reading Roman Urdu. But I read his poetry even through all that, cuz they're that good. You simply can't miss out on him.

Fallen Angel is new to the world of blogosphere, and he definitely deserves a spot on the list. I have read his work and I would say that he's got a few tricks up his sleeve. As writers, we put our souls into our works and his blog clearly show that. You can check him out at The World Around Me.

Fallen Angel may put his soul into his work, just like me and many others. But only a few can actually carve a blog out of their soul. Closeted has completely mastered that art, and his writings have possibly moved me the most. I was actually very surprised when I came across his blog on Manjam, but I'm so definitely glad that I did. Especially since he deleted his Manjam ID a day later. His postings are a few and far, but they're so damn good. Also he doesn't resort to cheap under table mechanics like sexy pictures. If you want to get to know a gay man who truly values commitment, The Closeted Blog is the place to go.

The last blog quite possibly needs no introduction. His writings have appeared in various LGBT magazines of the Indian SubContinent, and his LGBT Awareness zeal matches nobody else that I have ever come to know personally. Just like everybody he's had his share of heartbreak, but he wears every one of those scars beautifully. The blog may be titled Confessions of an Imperfect Man, but he really does capture the essence of perfection in the sense that he accepts every form of diversity. The creation of the evil (Kidd'in) Mastermind Hadi Hussain, Confession of an Imperfect Man.

These are all I have for now!

I'm hoping that the next time my exams come around there are more blogs to show case, so if you are planning to start one or want to - DO IT ASAP!

Also if you remember I did a post on how age preference. I missed out on the option "Don't care", so I created a new poll. If you haven't responded to the poll yet, I'd like it very much if you do it now. I hated deleting the previous post but I do believe that there exist guys who do not care about age at all, and I just had to know how many people felt this way. 

Exams, Bloggers and Poll

I'm not sure how many of you know but I have my exams coming up next month, and that's why there has been a decline in postings lately. I really can't believe I'm going to be sitting for exams again, feels just like yesterday when I did my last post about taking a break from blogging.

C&B and PFL are going to remain this way till about the last week of July, but I am not entirely sure. However it is a for gone surety that I will resume posting regularly in August. As for GPY!!! the same fate is going to be presenting itself however I shall be surfacing to post the Formspring questions given to me in June. The post is all ready in the drafts. If anybody has any questions to ask me, there is still time.

It sucks to be studying right now, especially since almost everyone I know is on vacations and is having a complete ball. A few things however still make me pick my chin off the ground, such as gym and Josh. I used to go regularly to my earlier gym, but I had no trainer. This time around I got one and he's fantastic. I dropped 5 kgs in a month and 2 inches off my waist. I'm putting the hunk back in Phunk!

Oh and in case you are thinking that somehow I am doing this for Josh, you can't be more wrong. I'm doing this for myself. I'm doing this to be healthy, and while I can not see the results myself I have been getting comments from people around me that I have lost weight. Yeah, I'm weird in the sense that I do not think I have lost weight even when the scale says that I have. Ever Mr. Ridiculous!

With summer over us in full bloom, I'm extremely sorry that I will not be able to entertain you. However I'm leaving you in the capable hands of some Pakistani gay bloggers that I have come across. Some are old, some are new. Some are still active, some have come to a halt for now. But perhaps increased traffic would get them to start posting again.

I have posted about this blog before, but I think he definitely deserves a mention. I'm a huge fan of his writing, and I really do hope that he starts posting again soon. He took a break for his exams, and from what he told me the break paid off. His exams went well. I'm hoping that a few of you could light his fire and get him to post some new material. My very good friend Aaron Khan's blog, Life.....A Constant Battle.

This blog is relatively new, and unfortunately he's been slow on postings recently. I really like the whole theme of his blog and I'm pretty sure alot of gay guys out there would be able to identify with his life events. He's done four posts till now, and they're all pretty good. I would advice you to take caution as his posts tend to leave one a little light headed from the blood rushes to other parts of the body. And I really do not understand his fascination with the letter 'T'. The What-Not-To-Do Blog for the Average Queer Slut by Average Queer Slut.

Taste Some Gay Salt by Branden was one of my every day clicks last summer. The author of the blog has disappeared off the grid, however he still logs on to the blog time to time. Perhaps a quick E-mail can inspire him to start writing once again. Some of his posts have truly made me envious of his writing style, take this for example.

Not that I am partial towards Karachi, but whenever I come across a gay blogger from Karachi I can't help but scream in ecstasy. And I am quite sure I shattered a few glasses when I came across Feel-o-Rama by Ayaan Khan. I'm not a fan of reading Roman Urdu. But I read his poetry even through all that, cuz they're that good. You simply can't miss out on him.

Fallen Angel is new to the world of blogosphere, and he definitely deserves a spot on the list. I have read his work and I would say that he's got a few tricks up his sleeve. As writers, we put our souls into our works and his blog clearly show that. You can check him out at The World Around Me.

Fallen Angel may put his soul into his work, just like me and many others. But only a few can actually carve a blog out of their soul. Closeted has completely mastered that art, and his writings have possibly moved me the most. I was actually very surprised when I came across his blog on Manjam, but I'm so definitely glad that I did. Especially since he deleted his Manjam ID a day later. His postings are a few and far, but they're so damn good. Also he doesn't resort to cheap under table mechanics like sexy pictures. If you want to get to know a gay man who truly values commitment, The Closeted Blog is the place to go.

The last blog quite possibly needs no introduction. His writings have appeared in various LGBT magazines of the Indian SubContinent, and his LGBT Awareness zeal matches nobody else that I have ever come to know personally. Just like everybody he's had his share of heartbreak, but he wears every one of those scars beautifully. The blog may be titled Confessions of an Imperfect Man, but he really does capture the essence of perfection in the sense that he accepts every form of diversity. The creation of the evil (Kidd'in) Mastermind Hadi Hussain, Confession of an Imperfect Man.

These are all I have for now!

I'm hoping that the next time my exams come around there are more blogs to show case, so if you are planning to start one or want to - DO IT ASAP!

Also if you remember I did a post on how age preference. I missed out on the option "Don't care", so I created a new poll. If you haven't responded to the poll yet, I'd like it very much if you do it now. I hated deleting the previous post but I do believe that there exist guys who do not care about age at all, and I just had to know how many people felt this way. 

Boys, Men and Everything in Between

Is age really just a number when it comes to love?

This question has been bothering me since the past few days. It's pretty evident that age is important factor. Gay or straight - one of the first question everybody tries to wriggle out of their potential partner is their age. Also it comes to no surprise that pretty often people lie about it and that it's a very common reason people tend to reject others. This all clearly lays emphasis on the fact that age truly does matter.

Unlike straight relations where it's generally looked down upon when the woman is older than the man, we have no such issue. We are frowned upon in any case - insignificant of the age of the two guys involved. However in every case, people do have a certain age limit which they do not want to cross. Rarely does there come an exception which causes them to step outside of their boundaries.

I don't like dating young guys. Period! It makes me feel like a cougar. My age limit starts from 23 which is my age and goes up till 30. I'm willing to stretch up to 35 provided that I'm genuinely interested in the guy. But anything above 35 is a no go for me. My preference would obviously change as I age, since I do prefer older men. The only time I see myself going for somebody younger would be when I'm 30 and the other guy would be like 28 or something. But then there's that whole formula that 30 is equal to death in the gay world.

Fetishes aside, how much does the age of the partner effect the chemistry of a relation. Maybe my views are stereotypical but I speak solely from experience. When dating an older guy, it gives you the chance to be a 'child' in a relationship. While you are obviously responsible but I think a greater part falls on the other person. Or perhaps they feel that they have to take charge - be an example sort of thing. I remember talking to Bruce about something and he said, "I am older than you! I have more experience! I know better!". Could this be some sort of Power Play?

I know you are older and have more experience but I don't spout nonsense. After that I really didn't feel like saying what's on my mind most of the times in fear of being scolded like a child. But where does this come from?.

I have an opinion. You should listen to what I have to say. Can't we discuss this like mature adults?

While I would try to set up an example when dating somebody younger - if that opportunity ever comes. I would not enforce my thinking. A relationship is a two way street after all. When dating a younger man, there is a certain energy level you have to meet. And I'm not talking about sexual energy. But I feel generally they maybe more free spirited. You have to keep them grounded, however not by tying an anchor to their feet. Quite a few times, there is a certain innocence to them I feel the other person needs to accept and not try to change. This innocence will mature like fine wine in time itself. I'm not suggesting to smother them but a mutual acceptance of opinions.

What about when you are dating a man close to your age? Is that the best way to go?  Like a year younger older or a year younger. Perhaps even the same age as you! At any rate, there isn't much difference between the two. They both have been around for the same amount of time and have more or less the same amount of experience. Being at the same stage of life,  they have pretty similar goals in their minds and they mutually support each other as they know exactly what is happening with the other person. When I was with Nathan, I felt I enjoyed my time with him much more than with Bruce.

I have been with an older guy and someone almost my age. Although guys younger rarely fascinate me, however I think it's time I gave a younger meat a serious shot. I'm not entirely sure about anything yet, but there is a chance that I may have someone in mind. Yes, there has been a recent development and there is a very serious chance that this may actually mature into something concrete. He's younger than me and that's the part which has me scared the most. I have a firm idea in mind how to proceed but since when the best plans have been laid out by men?!

I'm putting up a poll that I would like the readers to contribute to. What age would you prefer your partner to be?

I'll be publishing another post along the same lines that was inspired by Ryan.  

Boys, Men and Everything in Between

Is age really just a number when it comes to love?

This question has been bothering me since the past few days. It's pretty evident that age is important factor. Gay or straight - one of the first question everybody tries to wriggle out of their potential partner is their age. Also it comes to no surprise that pretty often people lie about it and that it's a very common reason people tend to reject others. This all clearly lays emphasis on the fact that age truly does matter.

Unlike straight relations where it's generally looked down upon when the woman is older than the man, we have no such issue. We are frowned upon in any case - insignificant of the age of the two guys involved. However in every case, people do have a certain age limit which they do not want to cross. Rarely does there come an exception which causes them to step outside of their boundaries.

I don't like dating young guys. Period! It makes me feel like a cougar. My age limit starts from 23 which is my age and goes up till 30. I'm willing to stretch up to 35 provided that I'm genuinely interested in the guy. But anything above 35 is a no go for me. My preference would obviously change as I age, since I do prefer older men. The only time I see myself going for somebody younger would be when I'm 30 and the other guy would be like 28 or something. But then there's that whole formula that 30 is equal to death in the gay world.

Fetishes aside, how much does the age of the partner effect the chemistry of a relation. Maybe my views are stereotypical but I speak solely from experience. When dating an older guy, it gives you the chance to be a 'child' in a relationship. While you are obviously responsible but I think a greater part falls on the other person. Or perhaps they feel that they have to take charge - be an example sort of thing. I remember talking to Bruce about something and he said, "I am older than you! I have more experience! I know better!". Could this be some sort of Power Play?

I know you are older and have more experience but I don't spout nonsense. After that I really didn't feel like saying what's on my mind most of the times in fear of being scolded like a child. But where does this come from?.

I have an opinion. You should listen to what I have to say. Can't we discuss this like mature adults?

While I would try to set up an example when dating somebody younger - if that opportunity ever comes. I would not enforce my thinking. A relationship is a two way street after all. When dating a younger man, there is a certain energy level you have to meet. And I'm not talking about sexual energy. But I feel generally they maybe more free spirited. You have to keep them grounded, however not by tying an anchor to their feet. Quite a few times, there is a certain innocence to them I feel the other person needs to accept and not try to change. This innocence will mature like fine wine in time itself. I'm not suggesting to smother them but a mutual acceptance of opinions.

What about when you are dating a man close to your age? Is that the best way to go?  Like a year younger older or a year younger. Perhaps even the same age as you! At any rate, there isn't much difference between the two. They both have been around for the same amount of time and have more or less the same amount of experience. Being at the same stage of life,  they have pretty similar goals in their minds and they mutually support each other as they know exactly what is happening with the other person. When I was with Nathan, I felt I enjoyed my time with him much more than with Bruce.

I have been with an older guy and someone almost my age. Although guys younger rarely fascinate me, however I think it's time I gave a younger meat a serious shot. I'm not entirely sure about anything yet, but there is a chance that I may have someone in mind. Yes, there has been a recent development and there is a very serious chance that this may actually mature into something concrete. He's younger than me and that's the part which has me scared the most. I have a firm idea in mind how to proceed but since when the best plans have been laid out by men?!

I'm putting up a poll that I would like the readers to contribute to. What age would you prefer your partner to be?

I'll be publishing another post along the same lines that was inspired by Ryan.  

Single Daddies (Put Your Hands Up)

Back in October I did a post on my desire to become a father someday, regardless of my sexuality. Those who do not remember or have not read it, can do so now!

I can't begin to describe how over-whelming the response was and how it was one of the Most Read posts on my blog for a good three months. Right at the time I did the post, I also made a poll asking my readers if they believed that single guys could pull off fatherhood regardless of their sexuality. The poll closed yesterday and I can very honestly say that I am happy at the results.

A total of 100 votes came in, and 'Yes' exceeded 'No' by a total number of 63 votes. Wow!

There are alot of people out there who believe that single guys can become fathers and raise children just as well as married couples. Being a single father is a big deal, obviously they have to fill in the role of both the father and the mother. Can it be challenging?

You betcha!

The roles of both, the father and the mother, vary greatly in the upbringing of children. This holds specially true for the Eastern society, where the wife is responsible for what goes on regarding the children in the house and the father is responsible for the matters pertaining to the child outside the house. Single fathers have to wear both the apron and the business suit. Can I pull it off?

I do believe I can. Also people around me who know me well say that they feel I will be a great dad. To me, this is a far better compliment than anything else - even "Wow! You've lost alot of weight!".

My kids will be my pride and joy. As pompous and stereotypical as this sounds, I feel I will be more happy being a father than being some guy's partner. As a father figure I feel that, I would do so much better and a more fulfilling job. The role of a father is the one thing I know I can pull off amazingly!

I'll be posting another article soon, probably sometime early next month on something related to babies and there maybe another poll up soon.

What do you have to say? Do you agree with the results? Do you think you can be a single father?

To all those who took the time out to submit their vote, whatever it was; I thank you from the bottom of my heart! Thanks alot!

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Jack, if you are still reading my blog, I'd really like to hear a response from you and I'd like to ask you a few questions as well. Please do leave your email address in a comment - I will not be accepting it or you can send me a mail. 

Thanks! 

Single Daddies (Put Your Hands Up)

Back in October I did a post on my desire to become a father someday, regardless of my sexuality. Those who do not remember or have not read it, can do so now!

I can't begin to describe how over-whelming the response was and how it was one of the Most Read posts on my blog for a good three months. Right at the time I did the post, I also made a poll asking my readers if they believed that single guys could pull off fatherhood regardless of their sexuality. The poll closed yesterday and I can very honestly say that I am happy at the results.

A total of 100 votes came in, and 'Yes' exceeded 'No' by a total number of 63 votes. Wow!

There are alot of people out there who believe that single guys can become fathers and raise children just as well as married couples. Being a single father is a big deal, obviously they have to fill in the role of both the father and the mother. Can it be challenging?

You betcha!

The roles of both, the father and the mother, vary greatly in the upbringing of children. This holds specially true for the Eastern society, where the wife is responsible for what goes on regarding the children in the house and the father is responsible for the matters pertaining to the child outside the house. Single fathers have to wear both the apron and the business suit. Can I pull it off?

I do believe I can. Also people around me who know me well say that they feel I will be a great dad. To me, this is a far better compliment than anything else - even "Wow! You've lost alot of weight!".

My kids will be my pride and joy. As pompous and stereotypical as this sounds, I feel I will be more happy being a father than being some guy's partner. As a father figure I feel that, I would do so much better and a more fulfilling job. The role of a father is the one thing I know I can pull off amazingly!

I'll be posting another article soon, probably sometime early next month on something related to babies and there maybe another poll up soon.

What do you have to say? Do you agree with the results? Do you think you can be a single father?

To all those who took the time out to submit their vote, whatever it was; I thank you from the bottom of my heart! Thanks alot!

------------------------------------------------

Jack, if you are still reading my blog, I'd really like to hear a response from you and I'd like to ask you a few questions as well. Please do leave your email address in a comment - I will not be accepting it or you can send me a mail. 

Thanks! 

Oy Vey

I was catching up with an old friend yesterday.We were talking after about five months, so he had absolutely no idea that I was seeing someone. He was surprised when I ran this detail across him which lead him to asking some other stuff. As the discussion progressed, it reached the topic of getting intimate. He wanted to know the details, but obviously that wasn't something up for sharing. No, I didn't blow him like I did with the last guy who asked me the same question. Plus I've known him since about two years and we do have a conversation every now and then. Also he's just 16 so I really didn't feel like biting his head off. He's a super nice kid!

When I declined splurging the details, he proceeded to ask me how I felt about it. Now that was something I could tell, so I did. It felt great! Best thing in the world! A high like no other! A roller-coaster ride I would never get sick of! A ticket that would put Mr. Willy Wonka's Golden Ticket to shame!, and similar sorts. As I was telling him about it, I added that it was my first time as well and that it couldn't have gone any better.

To say that he was surprised would actually be an understatement. He was pretty taken back to know that I was 22 and I just did it for the very first-time, especially since I've been pretty sure about my sexuality since I was 16. Normally I wouldn't spring this topic, but it's a common reaction I've been getting when people get to know about it.

So far I've gotten a few "No way! Seriously?" and "WTF!". There was also one "You gotta be kidding me!" and a for sure original "Oh My GaGa!". So yeah, everybody gets pretty darned surprise and that leaves me thinking; When do most guys do it for the first time?

I've created a poll for you, which can be found at the top of the side-bar. The voting would close on September 13th 2010, also I'll be posting the next part of this topic on the same day or a day after. Doesn't matter if you're straight, gay or bi. If you've done the nasty, I'd like to know when! And if you're a girl, ask you boyfriend/husband when was his first time. If you haven't yet, I'm pretty sure the conversation to follow will be pretty interesting for you.

Adios, amigos!

Oy Vey

I was catching up with an old friend yesterday.We were talking after about five months, so he had absolutely no idea that I was seeing someone. He was surprised when I ran this detail across him which lead him to asking some other stuff. As the discussion progressed, it reached the topic of getting intimate. He wanted to know the details, but obviously that wasn't something up for sharing. No, I didn't blow him like I did with the last guy who asked me the same question. Plus I've known him since about two years and we do have a conversation every now and then. Also he's just 16 so I really didn't feel like biting his head off. He's a super nice kid!

When I declined splurging the details, he proceeded to ask me how I felt about it. Now that was something I could tell, so I did. It felt great! Best thing in the world! A high like no other! A roller-coaster ride I would never get sick of! A ticket that would put Mr. Willy Wonka's Golden Ticket to shame!, and similar sorts. As I was telling him about it, I added that it was my first time as well and that it couldn't have gone any better.

To say that he was surprised would actually be an understatement. He was pretty taken back to know that I was 22 and I just did it for the very first-time, especially since I've been pretty sure about my sexuality since I was 16. Normally I wouldn't spring this topic, but it's a common reaction I've been getting when people get to know about it.

So far I've gotten a few "No way! Seriously?" and "WTF!". There was also one "You gotta be kidding me!" and a for sure original "Oh My GaGa!". So yeah, everybody gets pretty darned surprise and that leaves me thinking; When do most guys do it for the first time?

I've created a poll for you, which can be found at the top of the side-bar. The voting would close on September 13th 2010, also I'll be posting the next part of this topic on the same day or a day after. Doesn't matter if you're straight, gay or bi. If you've done the nasty, I'd like to know when! And if you're a girl, ask you boyfriend/husband when was his first time. If you haven't yet, I'm pretty sure the conversation to follow will be pretty interesting for you.

Adios, amigos!